Let me guess... 
Her walls are up.

And maybe you think - "if I could just get her to go to couples therapy"... 

But there's a good reason that's NOT going to work...

I know because I not only tried it, but leading up to my own marriage crisis I even taught marriage classes alongside my therapist wife...

Little did I know at the time, none of the marriage therapy advice I got or taught was what I really needed when my own marriage fell apart... 

Today, I know exactly what was missing and I'm on a mission to help 10,000 men avoid the same HELL I went through by making FIVE fundamental shifts NOW... 

But first, let's start with what doesn't work:

✅  Doubling down on the romance...

✅  Using logic and reason to shift her perspective...

✅  Making demands or giving ultimatums...

✅  Begging or breaking down in front of her...

✅  Promising to change or showing her evidence...

✅  Talking to her friends or family...

✅  Shaming her for dividing the family...

But my situation is different! What if she...

❌ claims to be done or "moving on"?

❌ has an affair partner?

❌ files for divorce?

❌ has you sleeping in a hotel room?

Here's the good news. Your situation is not different. 

Which means the solution is the same.

Shift no. 1  

If your wife wants a separation or divorce, she's likely been contemplating it for years.

That's right, years.

You're not going to change her mind next week.

In fact, you trying to change her mind is the wrong approach.

A much better approach is to actually agree with her... 

The current marriage needs to die.

You see, you trying to "fix the problems in the relationship" will only fall on deaf ears because in her eyes it's not the relationship that's the problem... 

YOU are the problem.

So let's go with that idea for a second. 

If you want to build back her trust and you in her mind YOU are the problem... and YOU are the only thing you can control... 

That really leaves you with one option.

To work. On. Yourself. 

"But what about how she's..."

STOP.

Shift number one is to take extreme ownership. 

And you need other men to call that out.
  

Shift no. 2  

Stop pursuing her and start pursuing your inner man

Right now you're operating from a place of fear.

Fear of losing her. Fear of being alone. Fear of failure as a husband and father.

And that fear is driving every desperate text, every late-night conversation attempt, every "How are you feeling about us?" check-in.

She can smell that fear from a mile away. And it's repulsive.

Not because she's cruel, but because fear-based behavior is the opposite of the masculine energy that attracted her in the first place.

Here's what you need to understand:
The man who is afraid of losing her has already lost her.

So what's the alternative?

Stop chasing her and start chasing the man you're afraid you're not.

The man who's let his body go? Face that. The man who's lost his purpose? Face that. The man who needs her approval to feel okay? Face that.

When you stop running from your fears and start running toward them, something shifts.

You stop being the needy guy she's trying to escape from...

And you start becoming the man she can't stop thinking about.

Shift no. 3
Nearly 70% of all separations & divorces are initiated by women. 

Why?

You were sold a lie.

You've been raised to get the girl. 

But you were never taught or trained on what to do after you had her.