Talking to your wife about investing in a coaching program can be challenging, especially when trust has been broken. It’s important to approach this conversation with sincerity and clarity.

Maybe you've already made the investment and you want to tell her what you've done or maybe you feel it's important to process it with her beforehand.

Regardless, here’s how to talk to her about the Lion's Den Program, focusing on why it’s crucial for your personal growth and the future of your relationship:

Taking Extreme Ownership

• Start by telling her that you recognize you’ve broken her trust and want to own your unhealthy behaviors. Don’t focus on her or justify your behaviors.

• During your exploration call with the Lion’s Den you may have cataloged a list of fear-driven behaviors that likely eroded the trust over time. Now is the time to share those behaviors with her during a conversation, ideally in-person, asking if she sees anything else. If she has more to add to it, don’t fight it, simply acknowledge her addition(s) as valid.

  Here is the list of common unhealthy behaviors

  • Defensiveness
  • Anger
  • Emotional unavailability
  • Shutting down
  • Avoiding
  • Lying
  • Withholding information
  • Blaming
  • Complaining
  • Whining
  • Failing to be proactive
  • Indecisiveness
  • Controlling
  • Demanding
  • Stonewalling
  • Name calling
  • Cheating

Emphasize your commitment to making things right and rebuilding the relationship by not only ending unhealthy behaviors, but changing the root beliefs behind them, which is part of the work.

Why You Need the Lion's Den Program:

• Becoming a Better Leader: Explain that you want to learn how to be a more secure and proactive leader in your relationship. The Lion’s Den Program is an annual membership with 1 on 1 coaching resources that help men understand how to lead in a loving, masculine manner. Listening, communication, creating emotional connection, repairing, and emotional mastery are key focus areas.
• Positive Influence: Highlight the importance of being around other men who are dedicated to self-improvement and can positively influence you. The community aspect of the program provides a support network that will keep you accountable and motivated.
• Self-Development Accountability Built for Men: Mention that the coach will hold you accountable through tough love, to your self-development goals, ensuring you stay committed to becoming the best version of yourself for both of you.

The Objective:

• Rebuilding Trust: Stress that the main goal is to rebuild the trust that has been broken through consistent action.
• Improving Emotional Connection: Emphasize your desire to deepen emotional intimacy through proactive communication.
• Empowering Both Partners: Explain that the program aims to empower her by making her feel more heard and seen.

Reputation and Investment:

• Expert Guidance: Share that the program is led by Bart Morse who she can watch here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FK8tSoL3kLk . You can share that she is welcome to setup a meeting with Bart to ask questions.
• Success Stories: Mention success stories of past clients who have successfully improved their marriages through the program, such as Hollywood actor Chris Noth (Mr. Big from Sex in the City). Dozens of references are available upon request.
• Long-Term Benefits: Highlight that the investment in this program is about creating a stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling marriage in the long term, but also having other positive men to be in community with over time.

The Work

• 8 weeks of weekly 1 on 1 Coaching Calls with Bart
• Weekly Group Coaching Calls (Tuesdays and Thursdays at 9 am PST) / Call Recordings
• Curriculum & Challenges
• Staying Connected to Online Community

The Cost

• If you have not made the investment and believe cost will be a concern share with her what percentage it is of your annual income to put it in perspective.
• You can also finance the cost of the program using Klarna (see payment portal) or by talking to the Lion’s Den about mutiple payments.

Conclusion:

• Reiterate your commitment to restoring trust and improving the relationship.
• Seek her support and understanding, emphasizing that this investment is a crucial step towards a better future for both of you.